As part of our forum preparation, AFSP asked us to write up vignettes that could be included in the packets that will be left with legislative staff. Even though much of the content is from stuff I've written before, I thought I would share mine here.
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On
June 17, 2009 my precious 17-year-old daughter, Emma Jane, passed away. Emma
was beautiful, bright, and articulate, with an effervescent personality. She
was a talented musician who shared her musical gifts generously and
participated in every musical ensemble she could fit into her schedule. She was
a caring daughter, sister, and friend and a bright light in the lives of many,
many people.
Emma took her own life.
When Emma killed herself she created a tsunami of destruction that swept up family, friends, teachers, ministers, mentors and neighbors. All of us struggled against the current of guilt, pain, shock and bewilderment. For her immediate family: her father, sister and me, life as we knew it ended.
I’m not sure we will ever fully understand why Emma ended her life; what caused what must have been an incredibly deep sense of despair and hopelessness; or why she couldn’t reach out to us or to the many other caring adults and professionals she had in her life. Nonetheless, in the days, weeks and months after Emma’s death I turned to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) to learn more about suicide and to search for clues that would help explain why my beautiful, bright, talented daughter was gone from our lives.
Emma took her own life.
When Emma killed herself she created a tsunami of destruction that swept up family, friends, teachers, ministers, mentors and neighbors. All of us struggled against the current of guilt, pain, shock and bewilderment. For her immediate family: her father, sister and me, life as we knew it ended.
I’m not sure we will ever fully understand why Emma ended her life; what caused what must have been an incredibly deep sense of despair and hopelessness; or why she couldn’t reach out to us or to the many other caring adults and professionals she had in her life. Nonetheless, in the days, weeks and months after Emma’s death I turned to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention (AFSP) to learn more about suicide and to search for clues that would help explain why my beautiful, bright, talented daughter was gone from our lives.
The facts that I discovered about suicide shocked and alarmed
me. Suicide claims close to 39,000 lives in the United States, which is nearly
as many as breast cancer and more than twice as many as HIV/AIDS. According to
the CDC, suicide was the second leading cause of death for children ages 12-17
in 2010. With statistics like those, how is it that no one; not our schools,
not our pediatrician, not even Emma’s therapist of three years, had talked to
us about suicide and alerted us to the warning signs? If my husband and I knew
the warning signs, would we have been able to get her the right help? My
daughter’s pediatrician saw Emma just 3 weeks before her death for a hormonal
disorder that can cause depression. Had she understood the risk of suicide in
teens like Emma, would she have treated that disorder more aggressively or,
perhaps, referred her to a psychiatrist for an assessment? If her therapist,
who she saw the night before she ended her life, had had specific training in
assessment of suicide risk, would she have picked up a sign that would have
allowed us to intervene before it was too late?
I became involved with AFSP as a field advocate
because I believe we can do a better job of preventing suicide. We can raise
awareness about suicide prevention and mental illness and reduce the stigma
that prevents people from seeking help. We can get all the information we
already know about suicide prevention into the hands of the people who are best
positioned to identify and intervene with those at risk: school personnel,
primary care physicians, and behavioral health providers. We can fund research
that will unlock remaining mysteries about suicide and mental illnesses and
lead to safer and more effective treatments. If we join together to do these things, I know
we can save lives.
There is not a day that goes by that I don’t think
about Emma and remember the gift that she was in our lives. Working on behalf
of AFSP is my way of honoring her and thanking her for the many beautiful
memories that I treasure.
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